People who are honestly trying to follow the spiritual life often make the mistake of being too hard on themselves. Because they do not seem to be progressing as fast as they would naturally like, or because they find themselves repeating some old fault that they thought they had completely overcome, they feel discouraged, and condemn themselves mercilessly.
All this is foolish. If you are doing your best to use what Truth you know, at present, you are doing all that you have a right to expect of yourself.
Don’t be impatient with yourself—but this does not mean that you are to be lazy or complacent. Handle yourself as a wise parent handles an obstreperous child—kindly, patiently, but with gentle firmness, not expecting too much too quickly, but foreseeing inevitable growth and improvement.
…and all of you are children of the most high (Psalm 82:6).
There is a fine line between pushing one’s self too hard and not pushing hard enough. There is no set formula and each individual must evaluate the question on an ongoing basis. One thing however is universal. Negativity aimed at oneself is just as wrong as negativity aimed at someone else. Every second we spend condemning and criticizing ourselves is time and effort robbed from seeking the solution and applying it to remedy the problem. If God loves us and instructs us to love one another, doesn’t that also apply to how we feel about ourselves? When self-condemnation, doubt and self-recrimination creep into our lives we should remind ourselves of how far we have come and give ourselves credit for all the good. We must must accurate and sober assessments of our weaknesses and mistakes, but we must not use them to beat up on ourselves. Try live this motto. We are better than we were yesterday, but not as good as we will be tomorrow.
Better tomorrow,
Z Gardener
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